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Review: Wedlock, Wendy Moore

wedlockOne of the richest heiresses in eighteenth century Georgian Britain, Mary Eleanor Bowes had every reason to expect a glowing future. Educated beyond her female peers, indulged by her father, and pampered with every possible luxury, the young heiress satisfied her taste for literary and botanical endeavours, but at the same time was a very poor judge of men. When Andrew Robinson Stoney, a handsome Irish soldier, was gravely injured in a duel for her honour, she married him almost immediately, told that he had only days to live. To her surprise, he recovered within hours of their marriage and proceeded to wreak a brutal reign of terror on her life, beating, kidnapping, and imprisoning her and any other females who fell too closely within his grasp.

But Mary Eleanor wouldn’t endure his tyranny forever, and her fight back, for herself and her children, resulted in hope for all abused wives throughout Britain.

What a fascinating book. This popular history, which reads almost like a novel at times, traces the fall of an incredibly rich and privileged woman due to a couple of bad, life-changing decisions, and is a fascinating look at how a single man could ruin the lives of everyone around him. Stoney wasn’t even born particularly highly, but by simply using his attractiveness and ability to lie guilelessly, he managed to bag himself not one but two heiresses. By the standards of their day, his treatment was judged out of the ordinary, but both of his wives had very little power to free themselves from his clutches.

Mary Eleanor Bowes herself was a very compelling character and I felt for her very strongly throughout the course of the book. She was spoiled when young, and did obviously have bad judgement and suffered from a lack of maturity despite her rather more advanced book learning, but none of that meant that she deserved to be so ill-treated. I found all of the struggles she went through to finally free herself to be enlightening – married women under 18th century law genuinely had zero rights. She no longer owned any of the property her father had bestowed on her, as her new husband forced her to renounce her prenuptial contract keeping her own income and properties, and was kept a virtual prisoner by servants hired by her husband. She had nothing, not even her children most of the time.

Her fight to regain those rights is engaging and heartening, as it must have been for any of the women of her time following the case. It made me very glad that I wasn’t born in the eighteenth century, and that so many women before me fought for our gender, as I hope we continue to do so. Indeed, Moore lists when women gained some of the rights Mary Eleanor deserves, and some of them are depressingly recent, which only underscores the fact that there is still so much ground we need to gain.

A peek into the real-life trauma of a disastrous eighteenth century marriage, Mary Eleanor’s fight for her life and family in Wedlock makes for fascinating reading, even as it reminds us of how much women have fought for their rights over the past couple of hundred years.


7 comments to Review: Wedlock, Wendy Moore

  • Mary Eleanor Bowes sounds like a fabulous woman and the book sounds fascinating!!

  • This does sound very intriguing, and the story of how Mary escaped her tyrannical husband was almost unheard of at that time, which makes me so interested in reading this book! Often I become enraged when reading books about women in this time period being ill-treated by their husbands, and the worst part is that they have no escape. It’s wonderful to hear that this woman was able to beat her husband at his own game. I clearly need to read this book! It sounds intense and wonderful. Great review!

  • I MUST read this! I hope my library has it.

  • I have wanted to read this book for a while, glad you enjoyed, hopefully I’ll get round to it sometime soon.

  • Wow, this sounds delightful. It’s the first time I’ve really come across it.

  • This was one of the first books I ever reviewed for the blog and I loved it which I dont normally love non-fiction books.

  • *sighs* An educated woman who is simultaneously a poor judge of men’s character? history meet repeat, history meet repeat


    On a serious note, this book sounds totally up my alley. Adding it to the wishlist!